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How to Channel Anger Into Motivation

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Anger is a normal and natural human emotion, but it can also be destructive if not managed properly. When anger is not addressed and dealt with in a healthy way, it can lead to physical and emotional problems, including stress, anxiety, and depression. However, anger can also be harnessed and transformed into a powerful force for good, if you know how to do it. In this blog post, we’ll explore the ways in which anger can be turned into motivation, and provide you with some tips and techniques that you can use to do so. First and foremost, it’s important to understand the underlying causes of your anger. Anger is often a result of feeling frustrated, powerless, or upset about a particular situation. Once you have identified the root cause of your anger, it’s easier to channel it into productive action. One way to turn anger into motivation is to channel it into specific, achievable goals. Instead of letting your anger simmer, use it to drive you forward and help you achieve what you wan

My Story This Far

I was born in Ada, Oklahoma, a small town in the southern part of the state, but I was raised mostly in Seminole, a slightly larger town about an hour away. Growing up, it was just my mom and me, as my dad wasn't really a part of my life. My mom did her best to provide for us, but it wasn't always easy, and I often found myself getting into trouble as a teenager. One of the things I struggled with the most was my relationship with alcohol. I started drinking in high school and, unfortunately, it quickly got the better of me. I was constantly getting into arguments and almost getting into trouble with the law. It was a dangerous and destructive path that I was on, and it took a devastating event to finally make me realize that I needed to make a change. One of my close friends was killed in a car accident, and it was a wake-up call for me. I realized that I needed to straighten up and fly right if I wanted to have any chance at a happy and successful life. It wasn't going to

If You Build It, They Might Come

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  The 80's classic Field of Dreams is about a man who builds a baseball field in a cornfield. He keeps hearing the idea that "If you build it, they will come" and eventually he builds the field and Shoeless Joe Jackson and the Yankee's show up. He is promised that if you he builds this baseball field, then they will come. Eventually, people show up from out of nowhere and they, because he built the field, show up.  It's a baseball fairytale, and it is extremely misleading. Mainly because people don't just show up to a thing you create. But we expect them to do so. And we are not happy when they don't.  As a theatre artist for most of my life, I have tried on more than one occasion to build something that people would show up to. I constantly try to affirm the idea that this is great and that they need to be here. And hope that the magical word of mouth will do it's job and make whatever I'm doing a viral success.  Because, hey, it worked for Kevin

We Might Be Through With the Past, but the Past Ain't Through With Us.

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 I've been noticing a trend lately, and it's a trend of people being stuck in the past or stuck in the way things "used to be" and it's depressing. Or at least that is the way things were explained to me. When we are stuck in the past, we are depressed. When we are stuck in the future, we have anxiety. When we live in the present moment, we are at peace. What really make the difference is perspective. How we look back on the things that we have done and how we look forward to the things that we will do. Living in Tulsa, I see it ALL THE TIME....just mention "The Zingo" or "Crystal's Pizza" or any of the other nostalgic things that are no longer around, while new restaurants struggle to find an audience and hold the same weight. We think about a more prosperous time when we were able to have no worries and loathe the times that we do have worries. And don't even get me started on people who want to move somewhere or moved from somewhere.

The Memory Ghosts

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The Memory Ghosts It was the fourth day in the lonely house since she had gone away. She had taken the kids with her. There was a calmness to a place that was once chaos. There was a stillness to the place that we once called home. It was getting to the end of the day and the sun was just going down.  It was a place that seemed empty when you walked in it, but at this point, he could be at a crowded train station and feel alone. I didn’t really see it coming, but now that I look back on it, I can see the signs. A move here, a prep here. Many different things led up to this feeling, and the feeling of neglect was thick in the air. Neglect of ourselves, neglect of the relationship, neglect of the children, and neglect of the animals. There was a peacefulness in the air that was completely and totally interrupted by the sounds of laughter. The sounds of kids playing in the backyard. The sounds of life happening around you. It was the anxiety that made him withdraw into his electronic devi

Have a Fantastic Voyage, Coolio!

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  I was an assistant manager at the Fayetteville Best Western Windsor Suites when Coolio was a guest. We would have celebrities from time to time who would come through our place, but I remember that this was around the time that a huge Arkansas Football game was going on and our normal rooms of 79.99 went up to 149.99 for a "Special Event Price". Coolio's team apparently booked their hotel rooms a little late and got two regular rooms to stay the night in at our place. Before I spoke to Coolio, I believe I spoke to his wife, who was upset and told me more than I ever needed to know about Coolio. Later that day, Coolio came in. He asked for a room key for his room and then asked for some matches. I asked for an autograph and he obliged. Very nice guy, and personable.  I remember being a huge fan of Gangster's Paradise and Fantastic Voyage as any kid that graduated high school in the 90's. I remember how his songs were fun. And they were heartfelt as well. While I

How do you define success, at least for yourself? Have you reached it?

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For me, success is incremental. I am successful because I get things done. I tend to get things done when I focus on completing them. I have had many successes in my past and they are touchstones, but I don't stop having successes. Sometimes, success is being a good dad that day. Sometimes success is going to the gym. I have small successes every day and I'm thankful for them. I wanted to be a professional actor in Hollywood films. I was not successful in doing that, but I have been in films as an actor. So, in that, I have been successful. I think we have to look at our life, realize those places that we have had success and be thankful for them.